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I find your text very interesting. What you describe as optimal is actually the patriarchy that is being fought at all levels. The man as provider and the woman in her domestic role. If you are someone who washes, irons, cooks etc. then you can make such traditional demands. If you see yourself more as a modern woman, you can't expect a traditional man. That would be another classic double standard.
With my wife it's relatively balanced, she earns the same good money and doesn't depend on me. I usually cover larger expenses (e.g. buying a car etc.)
With my wife it's relatively balanced, she earns the same good money and doesn't depend on me. I usually cover larger expenses (e.g. buying a car etc.)
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@Brazzo_Muc So I wouldn't stay at home because it's not my style to do the shopping, cooking and tidying up every day, it's too monotonous. (And I don't get paid and my work might not even be appreciated) I would rather split the household and go to work too. I just want to see that the man is generous to me because then I know that he loves me. And then I'll also give him a present or invite him out again or buy him something back and forth like that
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@Brazzo_Muc Many people want this double standard and see no problem with it!
It would be a problem if it were the other way around ;)
It would be a problem if it were the other way around ;)
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@Brazzo_Muc I will also never be dependent on a man because it is too dangerous to lose your freedom. If there's something else like violence or cheating or drug addiction, as a woman you have no choice but to stay there because you can't feed yourself
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@Brazzo_Muc otherwise the division with you with buying a car and not being dependent sounds good
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@MWS So the other way around, if I earn more, I won't take a man who earns less. Because I live better on my own. At least as well and we fight for a goal together. In my circle of friends, one woman earned more and the man stayed at home. After 12 years they divorced and it wasn't nice for the woman to see. That's why I'll never take a man who doesn't contribute later on
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@Esperanza Yes, I understand you well!
You don't want to "feed" anyone who earns less.
I feel the same way, only we belong to the opposite sex. Otherwise, it's an exciting parallel!
Ps Your example doesn't usually describe the most common cases. It is usually the man who pays more in the event of a divorce (which is understandable if the woman works at home).
You don't want to "feed" anyone who earns less.
I feel the same way, only we belong to the opposite sex. Otherwise, it's an exciting parallel!
Ps Your example doesn't usually describe the most common cases. It is usually the man who pays more in the event of a divorce (which is understandable if the woman works at home).
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•@MWS The stupid thing in this example is that the man didn't do any care work. He didn't even look after the son and only disturbed him (the woman's mother looked after the son). There was also a cleaning lady and he had high standards and shied away from cleaning ladies. Apart from driving a bit for the family and buying presents with the wife's money, he didn't contribute anything else. And now he wants money from the wife and the wife doesn't want to give it up because she has two children to feed
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@MWS but the man got a house and a car in Germany but he still wants more so he doesn't finalize the divorce and spent a lot on lawyer for it and has been bothered for years with lawyer letters for probably 4 or 5 years already
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@Esperanza hmm What can I say?
Getting married comes with financial responsibilities....
.... So it's best not to take any risks and make a legal commitment.
I know a case where she got >20k for 2 years of marriage (without children and without any other care work). Simply because that's what the law says. And the best thing is that she wanted a divorce.
Getting married comes with financial responsibilities....
.... So it's best not to take any risks and make a legal commitment.
I know a case where she got >20k for 2 years of marriage (without children and without any other care work). Simply because that's what the law says. And the best thing is that she wanted a divorce.
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@Esperanza exciting. Usually the wife delays the divorce in order to benefit financially.
PS No matter which side this is from, it is simply playing games for money. Therefore, check whether marriage is worthwhile.
PS No matter which side this is from, it is simply playing games for money. Therefore, check whether marriage is worthwhile.
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